Yesterday my coworker brought some dessert thing made out of cereal covered in peanut butter, chocolate, and powdered sugar. It looked yummy and the coworker raved about how delicious it tasted (and how I should really try some), but I knew it in no way fit with my current eating choices. Today a plate of beautiful brownies appeared in the kitchen, born on the triumphant hands of another co-worker, who encouraged us to dig in. What do you do when in this kind of dilemma? I vacillate between explaining the whole “I’m not eating processed foods right now” story and just eating a bit of what’s offered. You don’t want to hurt people’s feelings, but you also don’t want to compromise your standards unnecessarily. Is there some of kind of rule you can use to decide what to do? And if you do decide to turn down goodies, what’s the best way to do so?
If you decide to turn down proffered foods, make sure the person knows you are turning down their food, not them. Maybe a few compliments would help (“Not right now…. That looks delicious, though! You are such a great cook!”). You could just explain that you’re trying a new way of eating (and feel great, by the way, thanks), or you could choose less sharing and say that you’re really full from lunch, that it looks delicious and you’ll maybe have some later…. The great news is that once people start to know you as someone who cares about healthy eating, you might not have so many awkward turn-down moments.
Alternatively, sometimes you may feel that your diet principles aren’t worth hurting someone’s feelings. This doesn’t mean you’re a health failure. Just make sure the following isn’t true of you: you are using this as an excuse to compromise your standards, you care about saving face or avoiding awkward situations more than you care about your health, or you are being too hard on yourself in the first place (some lifestyle changes can benefit from transition phases).